Youth Ministry Q & A (April)
Featured Voices:
Derek Draper, Minister to Students at First Baptist Church Wylie, TexasElias Garcia, Minister with Students at First Baptist Church, San Angelo, Texas
Steve Pulley, Minister to Students at North Richland Hills Baptist Church, North Richland Hills, Texas
Topic: Graduates in Youth Ministry
How do you honor the seniors in your
ministry?
Derek:
We have a senior Sunday set aside
each year to honor them. Before the worship service, I have them
fill out a postcard with some info on it, such as what they plan to
do, where they see themselves in five years, etc. During the service,
we recognize the seniors that are there, have their family stand, read
their postcard and present them with a gift. The gift is usually
the Congratulations CD by Interlinc and The Message remix Bible.
I have the pastor pray over them after the recognition.
I do a meal for them and their families.
The meal has been breakfast, lunch or dinner. In the past, I had
a speaker come in and challenge them. The last few years, I have
had the parents publicly bless their senior. Parents speak words
of encouragement, challenge and love to their senior in front of everyone
else. It is not a mandatory duty of the parents, but most
of them say a blessing. I have had parents prepare their blessing
by scripting it. Some have just done it on the spur of the moment.
Others have presented their daughters with a flower. Parents framed
copy of their blessing and gave it to their senior. This
has been extremely effective with our families. It is a powerful
time. Children forget speeches by other people, but they do not
forget words of blessing spoken to them by their parent.
During
this time, we have a place set up for pictures. We have a photographer
take shots of the senior and their family. We send these to them
after the photos are developed. Elias:
We recognize our graduating seniors
with a family breakfast and during our Sunday morning service.
At the breakfast a slide show is presented with photographs of each
student from childhood through graduation, as well as trips and activities
they were involved in during their time in the youth group. Younger
students in the youth ministry write, direct, and star in a skit impersonating
each one of the graduates. The skit is prepared in April and recorded
to be presented at the senior breakfast as well. The video is
a wonderful opportunity for the younger students to share the impact
these seniors have made in their lives. As part of the breakfast,
we also invite a former graduate of our youth ministry to return and
share about their experience in college and suggestions on how to get
involved in a church and other ministries while in college.
Following the breakfast, graduating
seniors are recognized in the Sunday morning worship service.
The students are presented, and information about each of their future
plans is shared with the congregation. The students are each given
a gift to commemorate their time in the youth ministry, and a prayer
of dedication is offered as they transition from one phase of life to
another. Steve:
We take a Sunday morning in May in which we recognize our Seniors publicly
in one of our worship services. A month or so before this day,
families start the process of sending us information on their graduates.
We receive a baby picture and a senior picture, and a list of high school
accomplishments and future plans.
This stuff helps us because we tally
it up and then on the Sunday of the recognition, we have each graduate
and his or her parents proceed into the service from the back (shortly
after it has started) while a PowerPoint presentation displays a highlight
background that includes all the things listed above.
Finally, we give them a devotional
book (Chambers, My Utmost For His Highest over the past several
years) and we work on tailoring the service towards making our seniors
and their families feel loved.
Why do you think students
“check out” of church after they graduate from high school?
Derek:
I think one reason is that we are
raising generations of event junkies that live for the next camp, conference,
retreat, disciple now, concert, etc. The depth of their relationship
with Christ is shallow. Once they leave their addiction to events,
there is not much there. Another reason is that some are on making
decisions about Christianity on their own for the first time.
Many have been spoon fed by their parents, youth workers and peers about
Jesus and that is gone. Some do not have the accountability circle
they once had. The third reason is that some stay home for college
or work and the college department is not that strong.
Elias:
There are many reasons why students
“check out” after graduation. Many students travel back home
on weekends. Because of this, finding and attending a church in
their college town becomes difficult. For many students, being
on their own means not having to go to church. They have the freedom
to choose whether or not they will attend. And those who are searching
for a church may have a difficult time finding one they feel comfortable
attending.
I feel the main reason students
“check out” is they find a sense of community in a different place.
They find a community in their dorms, face book, classes, ministry organizations,
etc. This new community takes place of the community they experienced
in high school known as youth group or the church. Many of these
organizations do service projects and help others, which are similar
activities that the church does. They replace the community of
church with a different community; one they feel connected to either
because of interest or other reasons. Steve:
That’s the million dollar question.
Up until recently, I have always heard the 80% number being used in
reference to the percentage of 18 year-olds that claim to be Christ-followers,
and are plugged into churches and then graduate from high school as
well as their faith. It seems like many are saying it’s 85%
or 90% now.
But, I believe a number of Youth Pastors
are lowering this number (as of very recently) because we are focusing
on some crucial foundations that define success in youth ministry and
produce teenagers that graduate high school and enter a lost world as
Biblically-based, Kingdom shapers.
I think this foundation is not predicated
by high numbers on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights.
I feel we are recognizing that this
is a generation of students that desires the spiritual, but is Biblically
illiterate. As Youth Pastors, we are realizing that our response
must be to teach our students about the nature, character, and holiness
of God through Jesus Christ. Then, as we spend time with God and
abide in Him, we must also consistently model as best we can who Jesus
is.
I believe that the old saying of, “Keep
them busy so that they stay out of trouble” doesn’t work in the
church any longer. (It actually never worked at all – see the
80% rule.) We have been so activities based in the past just to
keep parents and Six Flags happy, that consequently, from a spiritual
formation perspective we have promoted through a generation of students
a mile long and an inch deep. I’m seeing youth ministries today
focus on doing a few things really well, and I think we and students
are better for it.
We have blow torched short-term mission
trips that have taught kids so many things. They have caught an
“On-Mission” way of life that has led them to see that they are
not to compartmentalize their faith just for seven days in Mexico or
New Orleans. Instead, teenagers are living out their faith in
Christ in the class room, at the places where they work, within their
families and where they hang out.
Maybe most significantly, we are taking
serious the Shema of Deuteronomy 6. There are no greater and more
significant primary disciplers than mom and dad. Aren’t you
seeing more youth ministries getting onboard and placing more emphasis
yourself in teaching families how to pray together, how to talk and
spend time together, and how to seek the face of God by spending time
in His Word?
These are a few but significant foundational stances we’ve made to
turn the tide of disengagement after graduation.
What are some suggestions to ensure
that your graduates get plugged into other churches after they leave
your ministry?
Derek:
I believe the main source to keeping
the students plugged in is equipping parents to make spiritual impact
on their child. Equipping and encouraging the parents begins when
their student enters the youth group. Parents are a natural contact
with the child when they leave the youth group.
Another
way to help the students stay plugged in to the church is to get in
contact with the churches and organizations on the campuses they will
attend. I have called the churches to give them names of students
going to school in their town. I have sent names to the BSM on
their college campus. Elias:
If a graduating senior’s experience
in the student ministry was meaningful and a growing time, he or she
may feel the need to stay plugged into a church beyond the high school
years. But even if this happens, it
doesn’t guarantee that they will get plugged into a church once they
leave the youth ministry.
Helping students plug in after youth
ministry begins when they first enter the student ministry. Youth ministry
does a great job of creating community and sending students out to serve
others and have fun experiences. Beyond the student ministry,
there are usually not many of these opportunities while in high school.
But once they begin college they will have many organizations and groups
that can replace the church community. Therefore, when students
first enter the youth ministry they must realize that this community
is a faith community. Their faith in Christ makes all the difference
from any other organization. They must realize that the faith
community known as the church is the agency that God uses to change
the world, and He calls us to be part of the body using our gifts to
reconcile the world to God. If students feel that church is just
a place where you sit and listen and not a place where you are
sent to be kingdom people they will not feel the need to plug into a
church.
The following suggestions may be helpful
in getting students plugged in once they leave the youth ministry and
transition into college life:
- Help the student find a
church they know will impact them.
- Connect the student to
Christian organizations on campus where they will meet others just like
them.
- Plan a time to visit the
campuses these students attend.
- Send care packages and
letters just to remind them that you care.
- Get them connected to your
college ministry before they leave for college so that they feel comfortable
when they visit during holidays and summer vacation.
Steve:
We have been proactive about informing
seniors and other students in general about the 80% dropout rule.
Our intent is to motivate them (sometimes by fear but most of the time
by encouragement) to view their spiritual life more as a marathon instead
of a sprint.
At our Fall Senior Retreat, we ask
the question, “What are you going to do for God this year?”
Again, we talk about the 80%. We ask, “What group will you fall
into after you graduate? Those that passionately follow Christ,
or those that passionately follow the world?” Then we
end the senior year with a final retreat. There, we celebrate
the victories they had in Christ and give a final formal push towards
helping them finalize a plan for continued growth after graduation.
This plan always centers around not just attending a church while in
college, but investing in a small group, connecting with the rest of
the church, etc.
In addition, we’ll network with University
Ministers of local churches where our students will be attending college
in order to give them strong prospects and to allow those ministers
to pick up where we left off.
Youth Ministry Q & A (March)
Featured Voice: Ryan Prater, Junior High Pastor of Matrix Ministries at Clear Creek Community Church, League City, Texas
Topic: Remembering and Celebrating Easter with Students
There seems to be a lack of emphasis in Christ’s journey
to the cross in student ministry. Why do
you think it is this way? How can we
engage students with the whole Easter story?
I have always tried to be intentional about obvious
things on the calendar (Christmas, Easter, the start up of school, etc.). In most of these cases, society is our best
friend. They make sure through their
marketing that everyone knows a few months out that Christmas is coming or that
Easter is coming. People are talking
about it (at least about bunnies) and are making Easter plans. I see it my responsibility to give them the
“why” behind the holiday. The Passion
week—with the apex being the Resurrection—is the most important week our world
has ever known. Paul tells us that if
there is no resurrection then our faith is useless. That is why it is on my calendar every
year. If some student ministries are not
emphasizing the story of Easter it is possibly a lack of intentionality.
With the holidays of Christmas and Easter, I like to
connect the history and forgotten traditions of Christendom with today. Talk about the torture of scourging,
crucifixion, and the historicity of the Resurrection. With some research and some creativity in
presentation, you can make a familiar story come alive.
How can youth ministers make Easter and the time
leading up to Easter meaningful for students?
One of the most meaningful things that The Matrix
(Middle School Ministry at CCCC) does every year is the observation of the
Passover Feast on Maundy Thursday. Jerry
and I instituted it when we were a tandem at Pioneer Drive, and I have carried
on with me here at Clear
Creek Community
Church. We often partake in the Lord’s Supper, but
few of us know about the meal and its ritual that gives the Lord’s Supper its
context. It was a meal observed by the Jewish
family. The meal itself told the story
of the Jews—mainly their slavery and exodus out of Egypt. The climax was the eating of the Paschal
lamb. It’s a meal that takes about an
hour and a half to complete. It is a
sensory overload of tastes and smells and touch that we are not used to. But as Christians, our story is woven
throughout this meal. Our heritage comes
from the Jews. So that part of the story
should resonate with us. But we see how
through the meal Jesus puts the pieces of the puzzle together. Jesus is our lamb, the bitter herbs can
remind us of our past slaver to sin, etc.
And the end of the meal is where the Jews would wait (and still do to
this day) for the second coming of Elijah.
Jesus said that John the dipper was the second coming of Elijah. It is amazing. For our students it helps connect even more
their heritage from the Bible today. It
will make the subsequent Lords’ Supper observations you do mean that much more
as well.
What are some creative ways, practices, and Easter observances
that we can incorporate into our youth ministries?
- Maundy
Thursday observation.
- Stations
of the cross/prayer labyrinth.
- Sunrise
service on Easter.
- Good
Friday service. Jerry and I had
this idea of having a service on Good Friday. In order for there to be a celebration
of a resurrection, there first has to be a death. For us to really appreciate and live in
the resurrected life, we first must go through a death. Paul says that we must die to
ourselves. The idea was to
structure the service to where at the end, it was very solemn and dark and
you basically “died” to yourself.
No fanfare or show. Kind of
a quasi-funeral. Sunday would be
the celebration of your new-found resurrected life in Christ.
How have your students responded to these?
Our students love the Passover Feast. They ask for it every year. They walk away saying, “I never knew that is
what happened.” It gives them a deeper
appreciation for the Lord’s Supper part of the Feast and for what Jesus has
done for us.
Is there any value to returning to Christian
tradition in order to better understand the Easter story? Why?
Most traditions (if not all) that are worth anything
started off with purpose. It’s when we
forget about the original purpose and do them for the sake of “Well, we have
always done it” that they become a sacred cow.
I think it is worth looking at the traditions that Christendom has
passed down throughout the years and asking “Why did they do it? What were they trying to teach us?” I think that when we can see how we fit into
the bigger story it is incredible. When
we can connect ourselves to people hundreds of years ago who did the same
thing, there is power in that.
What are some things we can give students for
personal reflection as Easter draws closer?
I hope that we can give students ownership of their
faith. If we/they miss the Resurrection
and how that reality is to impact our lives forever, we’ve missed
everything. Jim Collins begins the book Good
to Great with a poignant line that I cannot get out of my head: “Good is
the enemy of great.” I sense that our
culture as a whole is satisfied with our students being “good kids.” Usually the qualifier for good is that they
get good grades, come to church, volunteer some, stay out of trouble (for the
most part), etc. Though these are upstanding
qualities, there is more to it. I want
students to be great. (When I say great
I am thinking “godly.”)
The resurrected life is the greatest challenge that
any of us will face. To leave the old
life to “take up our crosses daily and follow” Jesus is a tremendous
command. The fact that Jesus was
resurrected makes everything else that He said true as well. And if true, then I must be obedient to all
that God says in all areas of my life. I
cannot settle for “good” but must see it as the enemy to truly becoming
great—the follower I am supposed to be.
If our students could be challenged and brought along
the process of owning their faith and living the resurrected life, we would see
the moral climate of our schools and culture slowly change. The next line in the book is equally compelling:
“That is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great.” Chew on that for a bit.
Youth Ministry Q & A (February)
Featured Voice: Jimmy Smith, Minister to Students, FBC Allen Texas
Topic: Disciple Now Follow Up
Disciple Now is one of the biggest events on a youth
minister’s calendar each year, yet follow-up with students and parents is one
of the things we do a poorly. Why is it
this way?
We don’t plan for it. We’ll work for months getting ready for the
weekend but we rarely give any thought or attention to “after the event”. The sad thing is, that means we’re giving
little attention to one of the most important elements of the weekend. Follow up helps students solidify their
commitments. They become less about
emotion and more about determination.
How can we ensure that this is not a regular
occurrence?
As I mentioned earlier, we
just need to plan it. Develop strategies
and materials that will help the students take their next steps. It will take more time but without it then
it’s just good event that doesn’t produce lasting change.
When you have a number of students who make decisions
(about salvation, rededication, or surrender to ministry) during Disciple Now
weekend, what are some of the next steps you take to follow-up with them?
I always make contact with
them…letters, emails and personal visits.
I try to help them develop a strategy to continue on the new journey
they started during DNOW. We also pass
on their names and commitments to their small group leaders (in our case,
Sunday School teacher) so they can follow up as well. It’s important that their small group leaders
know so they can be aware during their teaching times and communication with
the students.
How do you inform the entire congregation of all the
decisions made over the weekend?
We encourage our students to
“go public” with their decisions. Going
up front can be intimidating for a student but it provides some tremendous
accountability for a student to know that his/her church will be praying for
them. Part of DNOW experience is a
celebration time with the church where our students get to share a part of
their DNOW experience. It’s important
that the church see the fruit of DiscipleNow.
We try, as much as possible, to make the DNOW experience a church-wide
experience.
Each Disciple Now weekend has students who are new to
your church. How do you follow-up with
those students? How do you incorporate
them into your youth ministry?
One of the things we ask for
when a student registers is where they normally attend church. If they are regular attenders at another
church then we thank them for their participation, help them to know we are
here for them, and encourage them to continue to remain involved in their youth
ministries. For students who do not have
a church home we encourage them to get involved in a small group Bible study
(Sunday School). We have Bible study
leaders contact them and follow up with them.
We send them material about our student ministry and let them know they
have a place in our ministry.
From leaders, to host homes, to cooks, to drivers and
so on, there are so many people who are involved in Disciple Now. What are some creative ways to thank them for
their commitment to investing in the lives of teenagers?
I’m pretty simple with this
one…I thank them publicly any chance I get.
I want the church to know that DNOW would not happen if it were not for
their sacrifice and hard work. I
especially am grateful for our host homes.
One way I try to take care of our host homes is by not slamming them
with 20 kids in their home during DNOW.
I’ve done that before and it’s not always a good thing. My goal is 10 to 12 student per home. That’s a good manageable group. Anything I can do to help make their DNOW
weekend as smooth and easy as possible.
Plus, let’s be honest, you need them again next year!
How do you bring closure to your Disciple Now and
youth ministry?
We
don’t really try to bring closure…we want to build on what was started. We work hard to try to address things that
came from the weekend and keep pushing the things that God got rolling in our
ministry. We may not say “DNOW” much
after the weekend but it’s woven throughout all we do.